NOTE: FOR THIS ENTRY I'M SAYING THOSE WHO KEEP ON WHINING YET DOESN'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE IT! PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT BEFORE LEAVING NASTY COMMENTS! AND ONCE AND FOR ALL, I DON'T SEE WHY PEOPLE SHOULD BRING UP ILLNESS OR WHATEVER HERE!
CAUSE I'M OBVIOUSLY NOT TARGETING THEM!
Remember the other time I blog about this entry, where I just simply write out point forms of my thoughts out and in the end, loads of people are offended by it especially with this point:
themselves and prove to others they can be good looking too?
I don't get it why so many people are so angry over this point cause I'm just stating the fact what!
And people leave dumb comments like because you're good looking, that's why you said that and we are not born like you etc etc, but what I wanna convey is not to insult or to discriminate anyone lor!
What I actually mean is right...
Sometimes I really don't understand why someone who is, okay like overweight and doesn't want to do something about it yet continue to allow others to laugh or make fun of them!
I just don't get it what!
Shouldn't they go exercise to slim down or if rich enough to go to slimming centre or even liposuction? Why they still wanna continue to let mean people judge and insult them? Why they don't have the motivation to prove to those people who look down on him/her that they are wrong?
Cause this actually goes back long ago during secondary school days where I see so many girls got bullied by the whole class because of their appearance and the way they present themselves!
Sometimes I really just wonder why didn't they wanna do something about it and instead, continue to live that way and allow people to bully them till that bad!
And for people who get insulted of their looks, maybe they can just try to dress up and do something to their appearance to make themselves at least, more presentable thus likeable?
Like that you ownself also will feel happy what right!
Why would you wanna live your life miserably when you can live it better than ever?
You know alot of things is not because you're born like this so you got to accept the way it is!
Many of us are not born with natural beauty, with good looks and good figure! With big round teary eyes, small nose, or a nice face shape! Which I think me too! I'm not born with all these but knowing how to present yourself or to dress up really helps alot!
Wear circle lens!
Bad complexion?
Go see skin doctor and take medicine!
Ugly teeth?
Do braces or whatever!
Want to look better when you're out?
Put on some make up!
And wear appropriate clothing for different kinds of events and not your home clothes!
Things like that can change you alot and I feel people are too lazy to do that even and I seriously don't understand why! How can you be that lazy on such things! I'm so furious!
Its your life you know, live it or break it!
I somehow conclude that those that feel insulted by my entry that time are those that I say right on spot about them and thus such a big reaction!
Seriously, no one can ever help you if you don't want to help yourself!
I never think I was very good looking at all! To me good looking face is not something like mine! I'm just confident about myself and maybe with alil of dressing up, I can look better! So can you!
So quit living in your own world and do some changes to it!
You can never feel how good it is when people stop giving you hurtful remarks or comments when you look much better! I'm sorry to say, this society is pretty much superficial and they see looks more than anything else for the first impression! I have quite a few friends that after they really do something about themselves, got more suitors and have even more confidences than ever!
Which is something good what right?!
So now do you get my point on; I don't understand why... Fat or ugly people don't wanna do something to themselves and prove to others they can be good looking too?
p/s: I'm not going to elaborate other points cause I think I did it before on twitter! Like the public transport one! See lah! Never follow me right! Obq!
haha! ben you are so cute :) i agree with what you are saying totally!! :)
ReplyDeleteMakes a lot of sense!! :) Enjoy reading your entriesssss!!!
ReplyDeleteand some people just like to grumble all day long abouut how fat they are but not doing anything.
ReplyDeleteWhat I think is that, people don't see insults as motivation. Insults can never be motivation. Insults are discouraging and awful. Motivation is something nice, not hurtful. And sometimes, it's not that people are lazy. There are other factors to it such as money. Braces are expensive and not all could afford. Visiting a slimming centre isn't cheap as well. Some people might not be able to afforble such things.
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like totally man. those that are fat and ugly are just lazy. they can't be bothered with their looks, they are so used to have people critizing them.
ReplyDelete世界上没有臭人只有懒人!!!
Totally agree, If you can't help yourself, who's gonna do it for you? Your mum or your dad? just waiting for some hater to start writing bad comments now, hahahaha :D
ReplyDeleteQuote "Never follow me right! Obq!" Ultimate Cuteness ><
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Just ignore what those people wrote about it on your previous blog post ! (:
ReplyDeleteWell, I agree with 'hm'. Either that or they have esteem issues. Insults will never make them feel better if they have esteem issues. And some of them can't do anything about it because it's a health condition.. Don't stereotype yeah?
ReplyDeleteden why don u invest in a sex change operation? it will do the world a whole lot of good :D
ReplyDeleteI like your entry very much! make a lot of sense. :) keep blogging more entries!
ReplyDeletewell in case you dont already know, some people are fat because of illnesses (to be specific thyroid disorders is one of the causes of obesity), others, because of one thing called genes (obesity is found to be, in most cases, hereditary). same goes for bad complexion, etc. im not saying this because im fat, in fact ive been underweight my whole life, but im telling you this is no way to judge people, to say that they have not tried their very best to look good or presentable, because for some its really beyond their means. i think appearances are important but they arent everything, because if you have a pretty heart, you'll look good naturally.
ReplyDeletehi typicalben, where do you get your bangles/accesories from? they are gorgeous. and which brand of foundation are you wearing in most of your pictures?
ReplyDeleteDon't be ignorant! U were never fat or ugly so u've NEVER felt the same way as them. If u were fat or ugly, I bet u'll still be one right now. Being insulted does nt help to motivate. It makes them more depressed and give up. U shld be giving them encouragement instead of calling them lazy. U think they've never tried their best to change? They r still tt way coz they've tried and failed. Some need professional help bt can't afford. U think those 'solutions' u stated comes free? Ppl like u r the ones hurting fat/ugly ppl. I pity the girl u r gg to marry. Coz being pretty is important to u. She wld have to look picture perfect with make up on 24/7. Some Fat/ugly ppl have more talent or are more cleverer than thin/pretty ppl. Wat talent do u even have? Blogging is Nt even a real talent. You can't even write with proper use of the English language for godness sake. I bet there are many fat/ugly ppl who can write better than u. A lot of the pretty/thin ppl I've met are just plain LAZY, always pushing work they have to do to others coz they think they're too good looking to do. Some are even super LAZY to walk a few metres extra. See all those thin ppl who rush like mad to get parking lots so close to the entrance are thin ppl. Never judge a person by his/her looks. Dont be so ignorant and insensitive. Also, don't be too happy with what u have. U might have it today but u can also loose it.
ReplyDeleteAnd talking about ugly, go polish ur teeth. Why didn't YOU want to do something about it then?
ReplyDeleteTrue. Coz REAL men don't camewhore and act cute in pictures! Lol! Let's see how he feels when others call him names. See if he likes it. See if he will do something to change himself.
ReplyDeletehey ben, saw you today at essensuals.
ReplyDeleteyou were wearing alot of bracelets/bangles.
you look the same as in pictures :)
The other people commenting bad about you are just jealous.
ReplyDeleteI think you're really cool and i totally don't understand why some people
would get offended by that statement. :/ I actually really like all those camwhore
pictures of you haha.
"Things like that can change you alot and I feel people are too lazy to do that even and I seriously don't understand why! How can you be that lazy on such things! I'm so furious!" dude, why are you even furious? whether or not they make changes in their life it's completely up to them. It has nothing to do with you at all.
ReplyDeleteI agreed with you two too. Furthermore, he's not even cute in the first place; not to even mention the 'act cute' part.
ReplyDeleteTrue. This entry is so insulting to those people. Why should they PROVE to others that they are good looking? Don't be so ignorant, boy.
ReplyDeleteI don't see the need for fat or ugly people to prove themselves to ANYONE about ANYTHING! Stop being so MEAN!
ReplyDeleteYou're saying that people who get teased should do something to stop others from teasing them, but I think the problem doesn't lie with them. There's nothing wrong with being not so good looking or chubby as long as they're healthy. Why should they bother changing if they are fine with the way they are? The problem lies with the people that tease them.
ReplyDeleteYou said "<span>I don't understand why... Fat or ugly people don't wanna do something to themselves and prove to others they can be good looking too?" </span>and I disagree. I think it should be "I don't understand why... Fat or ugly people WHO WHINE ABOUT HOW THEY LOOK don't wanna do something to themselves and prove to others they can be good looking too."
Okay that's just my opinion.
<span>I think you made a great point here! It should be this instead!</span>
ReplyDelete<span>"I don't understand why... Fat or ugly people <span>WHO WHINE ABOUT HOW THEY LOOK</span> don't wanna do something to themselves and prove to others they can be good looking too." </span>
I do agree, no matter how much anyone denies it, appearance is always number 1, at least when it comes to first impressions. And i do agree that being insulted, to a certain extent should motivate someone to change for the better, even if its bit by bit. Of course there are exceptions where the person being insulted isn't very "normal" and goes further into depressions instead
ReplyDeleteLOL you ask your mother to slim down first then say la ==
ReplyDeletei think youre just gayboy who only know how to act cute and camwhore . do something that suit your age
ReplyDeletesaw u mentioning that u wan to do your teeth so badly in one of your entries because your front teeth is getting worse and fugly but 8k is needed for your teeth to be done. Heart pain yeah? dude do u understand that ugly people or fat people, some of them, not that they don't want to do anything about themselves but all these need MONEY! MONEY IS THE WORD! do u think everyone is like so rich to get braces for their crooked teeth? go slimming centre to slim themselves down also needs MONEY! go for plastic surgery also need MONEY! go for hair treatment, dye hair and make hair look nice and presentable also needs MONEY! you think everyone have hair sponsorship like you?
ReplyDeletesaw u mentioning that u wan to do your teeth so badly in one of your entries because your front teeth is getting worse and fugly but 8k is needed for your teeth to be done. Heart pain yeah? dude do u understand that ugly people or fat people, some of them, not that they don't want to do anything about themselves but all these need MONEY! MONEY IS THE WORD! do u think everyone is like so rich to get braces for their crooked teeth? go slimming centre to slim themselves down also needs MONEY! go for plastic surgery also need MONEY! go for hair treatment, dye hair and make hair look nice and presentable also needs MONEY! you think everyone have hair sponsorship like you?
ReplyDeletecame back here because i feel pretty guilty for having written this previous comment in an angsty tone. i apologize for that, but still, i stay firm on my view. because 50 years down the road it'd be close to impossible to remain physically attractive, but i tell you, you can still be pretty, because the beauty innate will still shine. im not saying your opinion is wrong, or if there is any wrong or right in the first place, but i really hope you'll grow to understand what we see.
ReplyDeleteUncivilised people drags other people's parents in. Maybe he meant those people who WHINE about how they look like. His mum doesn't whine I suppose. As if you'll feel great or awesome if someone say something about your mum. :)
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ReplyDelete</p><p><span>I was reading your blog and i saw this. hmm I don't understand why people get so offended over this post. In the first place, I don't think you were criticising anyone. <span><span> :) </span></span></span>
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</p><p><span>Its probably the terms like "Fat", "Ugly" as they are associated with anger and discontent. Hence, resulting in the strong negative reaction among these people. Maybe its better and nicer to change it to "People who feel they are discontented with how they look should seek ways to improve on it instead of waiting for a miracle to happen". Research have shown that not all fat people are unhappy about their size and not everyone perceive "handsome" or "cute" the same way. Some people likes people who are of bigger size, while others like skinny people.</span>
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</p><p><span>Everyone has their own different preferences. In fact a few hundred years ago, what people perceive as a beautiful lady is quite different from today. Today's media has such a strong influence that they have created this ultimate look that everyone should aim towards. For example, all girls must be tall, skinny, have white and fair skin with pearly white straight teeth. Whereas boys have to be strong and macho. These are "standards" constantly reminded by the media but in reality, not everyone feels that way. So the next time you guys say things like "guys shouldn't camwhore or act cute", keep them to yourself and don't force these thoughts on others.</span>
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</p><p><span>By the way, excuse my foul language, those fuckers who stereotype and discriminate gays are just as fucked up as people who tease others on how they look. Many people around the globe are becoming more civilised by accepting gays so you fuckers should grow up and stop spreading your crap around!</span>
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</p><p><span>PS: Ben not all braces cost $8k. That is the price set by many specialists. Normal dentists do it at about $3-4k and they can do it just as well. <span><span> :) </span></span></span>
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<p><span>read most of the comments. and i really think that what most of them say is true. BEING FAT, at times we can do anything at all. By the way, I fall under this category & I was your junior in sec sch. I experienced all those harsh comments about being fat and I am still a happy person living in this cruel society, understanding how to be fake in the world while still be true to myself and believe that no matter what size I am, I can still make a difference and be happy.</span><span></span>
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</p><p><span>yes, lots of people had told us, had prove that fat people can slim down in various ways; free or not. BUT, the fact is that IT DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL PEOPLE, no matter if they are rich or not.</span><span></span>
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</p><p><span>Liposuction & Slimming Centres cannot guarantee you a “100% no weight gains in future” kind of thing. Even liposuction was to be found that, the person receiving it can gain back the fats in other parts of their body, which in quite a few cases makes the person looks even worse in appearance or what some kids who have seen them would call them “MONSTERS”, “WEIRDO”, “FREAK”.<span> </span> </span><span></span>
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<p><span>Try thinking having a huge and swollen arm where having a slim body, thanks to liposuction. Do you know what these comments can do to a persons’ mental state of mind & their social well-being? For your information, all state of health is actually linked together. Being mentally unhealthy ( low self-esteem) can cause direct or indirect link to physical health etc. Read up on the three general dimension of health. Being called a monster after gaining back the fats in unexpected body parts after liposuction, it is a 1000 time worse than being called FAT! It can cause more hurt to a person self esteem and confidence.</span><span></span>
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</p><p><span>Being FAT, is not what anyone would dream of, it is not something we can choose. At times, it can be of many different health reasons.</span><span></span>
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</p><p><span>Taking myself as an example, I have hormones disorder issues, which causes me to gain more weight easily than other genetically fat girls or otherwise. You might say get a doctor to diagnose me and take hormones medicine to get it cure or whatever, but do you know hormones meds can also cause weight gain, at times we are talking about severe weight gain?</span><span></span>
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<p><span><span>You know what’s the thing that hurts most of our feelings first? Us. The very moment we start to doubt ourselves about our size, weight etc; the bullying actions, comments are then able to hurt us.</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span><span>It can be changed; we can stop being fat, but how much? How much more weight must we lose to stop those comments? It will never be enough you have to understand that. Most of us, who are fat tries all the right healthy way to lose weight, to the healthy BMI level, but still in many people eyes it is not enough. We have to be like you people, having perfect body.</span></span><span></span>
</p><p><span><span>So no point putting all the extra useless effort to meet their expectation. If we can lose weight, we will be more than happy. We do not always want to have a model figure. I bet most, just want to be healthy. If we were to do something to change, it will be for our own wellbeing, not for those comments and what others think.</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span><span>So if we do not care about what others say, their actions and harsh comments are trash. Useless trash.</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span>Ps: pardon my level of proficiency for English writing. The structure and language usage is a little off, but what I am trying to say is more or less there</span><span><span>.</span></span>
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<p><span>One of the reader commented, “</span><span><span>some people are fat because of illnesses (to be specific thyroid disorders is one of the causes of obesity), others, because of one thing called genes (obesity is found to be, in most cases, hereditary). Same goes for bad complexion, etc.</span></span><span><span>”</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span><span>Did you knew about this, before you wrote this post to clarify your stand on writing that comment?</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span><span>Yes, I agree with your thinking, the reason behind writing the comment, because that is what all the skinny (healthy kind)/fit & pretty/handsome people always think about.</span></span><span></span>
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</p><p><span><span>Why can’t we, fat people do something about our weight etc? It is not that we are do not want or we are not doing it, it’s at times we really can’t do much about it. We start to accept it, we start to show ourselves confident in whom we are, what we are. MOREOVER, WE SHOW THE REST, THAT CONFIDENCE OF NOT BEING TAKEN BACK BY THE SIZE OF OUR JEANS OR OUR SHIRT & EVERYTHING.</span></span><span></span>
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Sorry for the long post of comment, 'cause it only limits to 5000characters..
ReplyDeleteAND LASTLY, I JUST WANT TO SAY NO MATTER HOW ANGRY A PERSON IS. NEVER DRAG THEIR PARENTS INTO THE COMMENTS. ITS EXTREMELY RUDE!